Love <Help>

Niqhtmare · **Love <Help> -** Jun. 6th, 2009, 05:17 AM

Guys I'm in love with a girl and she loves me too.
But as time closes in (in about 4 months) she's going to study (university) in a different town... And she told me that she don't know what will happen, because it is going to turn out into a long-distance relationship... Even if I can see her once per week she told me last night that she doesn't know what will happen.
She says that she loves me and I belive her, thats not the problem but what or how should I react to such a thing... I don't know

I'm right now confused and sad... I think she is the One women in my life, but I can't hold her back - I'm not selfish - I want her to study but is it possible to manage this?

I'm so confused about her right now. Has someone a good advice ?

katon-fuuton · Jun. 6th, 2009, 05:31 AM

tough problem here... i dont know if anyone can actually help you except for giving u advice.

I think you should go take a long walk or something and think about your possibilites.

(Can we stay friends? Will this long-distance relationship work? Am i willing to sacrafice everything?)

Another tip is to think about it seriously, None of that romeo and juliet crap. i think talking it out with her might help, but its always gonna be your call on wateva u wanna do.

Quote:

"Walk forward, think positively. Nothing is impossible if you set your mind to it!"

This is something out of a chick-flick....I'm sorry but i dont think i should influence wateva ur decision is. It would make me feel like shit if i made u do something that u regreted...

Well try to look for the best solution and think postively and realistically.

Hope this helps you out.

blackmamba · Jun. 6th, 2009, 05:41 AM

At least you guys live in a different town and get to see each other every week. I, however, get to be in a different country and it would be a freaking miracle if I would get to see him once a year. ~_~

*cough* Anyway. Let me get this straight, since when have you guys known that you love each other? Because if you both have known that for a long time now, then you should've discussed it with each other a long time ago, not now when time's running out. _-" Nevermind, sorry. Nobody knows what will happen, Niqhtmare. Nothing is certain, but hey, at least you tried, right?

Okay. This is how it goes: If you both are willing to have a “long-distance relationship”, then go for it. Why not give it a try? If you both are scared, still, give it a try. You guys might regret it one day, and wake up wondering what could've been. If both of you see that you'll be together in the long run, then give it a chance. You must fit into each other's schedules, no matter how hectic it can be. Because honestly, I think that if you have something so good, you just don't throw it away because of something like that. Cope up by having a lot of phone calls, text messages, emails, and whatever. Try to see each other as much as possible. Long-distance relationships require a lot of patience, security, and most importantly, sacrifice. It's extremely difficult (and that's an understatement), but it's so worth it in the end. Just look forward to the next time you both meet, and especially to the day where you both are never going to have to say goodbye to each other again.

Niqhtmare · Jun. 6th, 2009, 06:11 AM

I'm her first serious relationship... We know each other about 3 months and we agree together very well... I think I will take a long walk as you suggested katon-fuuton.

Thx blackmamba I think I should just continue, who knows!?

blackmamba · Jun. 6th, 2009, 06:49 AM

A long walk, or just lay on your bed and stare at the ceiling... whichever helps you think better. It's a tough decision to make, but I think that if you know it, then you know it. You're not just accepting your decision 100%... yet. But I'm pretty sure you have an idea already on what to do. :P

Who knows, indeed. Make sure you update us on your decision! ^^"

ken13 · Jun. 6th, 2009, 09:41 AM

i harsh as this sounds i think you need to move on because long distance relationships seem to fail in the end. I 'm not telling you what to do but i think you and your girl will be better off as friends.

Rhyjle · Jun. 6th, 2009, 09:43 AM

Long-distance? Sounds tough...it requires faith and trust...mostly, when couples are involved in a long-distance relationship...it does not go smoothly...time would come when you begin to doubt...sorry...I saw it happen a lot...

**EinarRhys** · Jun. 6th, 2009, 02:10 PM

You guys are pretty bunch of pessimistic. You guys think long distance relations do not last? Have you thought about people who go are in the Military, Air Force or the Navy? How are they able to manage their relationships? I am going to say this if both of you are truly in "love" with each other then even distance nor time can be an issue. I see lot of relations fall apart because they have weak trust. If you know someone then you should trust them and even if they are far they will think about you.

Maybe I am just a Romantic who thinks that there are things that work even if all people say the opposite. You shouldn't think on what you see; however, believe in what you want it to be. This will be the line that will separate in having a long distance relationship to breaking up. o.o"

blackmamba · Jun. 6th, 2009, 04:48 PM

Exactly. Go tell them, Einar!

Like I said, if you guys have something so good, you don't throw it away just like that because you both are not living in the same town or country or whatever. Most long-distance relationships don't work because people are too pessimistic about it. There are those, however, that believe. And those who believe are the ones who get to prove everybody wrong. Just have faith in the person you love, and you would be surprised.

I'm tired of other people telling me it's not going to work. _-" I think you guys really need to want it. The reason why I am in a long-distance relationship now is because I want it. Do you? Ask yourself that.

Niqhtmare · 05:11 PM

I agree with Einar and bm. I tought about it the whole day and I think I calmed down a little bit...
I was just out with her and we had a very nice evening and a nice talk. I said to her that I will look straight ahead and think only positive regardless the circumstances (I hope I wrote this correct, hehe

)
I'm very happy that I have met someone like her and I love her the most! I will think only positive and I "know" (not think) that it will be alright with a little bit patience and luck.